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It doesn't matter. I'll get over it.

Communication It's short and basic, but I link it because: One of the most important things is honesty. When people think of being honest they tend to think of large things, however, being honest even about small things can have a positive impact on your relationship. Something small, like saying you feel fine when you feel tired can cause a loss of trust. It is easy to associate that small lie with a bigger scarier one. If they can't even trust you to tell them how you feel, what else aren't you telling them? Simply being honest can affect quite a bit of your relationship. It does matter. That's why I asked.

Wow, Jesus, that seems really fucking condescending. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to be an ass. It's just that if you don't tell me why you're feeling that way, I don't know what I did to provoke that agitation, and I could end up doing it multiple times because I don't know what I did, and that'll lead to conflict and I really would rather not get into some sort of confrontation when you could have told me and I would have stopped. The same goes for me, you know. I'll be up front, but it's totally a two-way street. Please?

Don't apologize. That's the point of communicating, right? For an article on the internet, it got your point across. And I don't want you to think I lie to you. I don't. I don't like football. I don't want to go to the game every Sunday. Once a year, maybe, but more than that I don't think I could do. Which isn't the point. I don't know if you even like football. I did a lot of stupid shit over the years. I know that. But I'm not like that anymore. I haven't been. And that shit I used to do was always with people I didn't know and didn't care about. I don't blame you if you need or want someone else. I'm not a woman. But I'm not sure if I can be a part of it either, which I realize might seem like false advertising and I'm sorry for that if I gave you the wrong impression. That's as honest as I can get. I hope it made sense.

Honestly, I just Googled something about communication and how it relates to relationships and picked the one that wasn't some cutesy dating shit bullshit with a "Top 5" and every number was some "steamy" font choice so it looks like OKCupid or eHarmony or whatever is the end all be all of advice. Because it's not. So let's plow through. I wasn't serious. I was being completely facetious. I don't want one of them, I've never done them, it's not at all my Thing, if you want to know the truth. It actually kind of boggles my mind, and as much as I really like Monaco and France, when in France is not the same as when in Rome and I am 100% a-okay with that. I don't need someone else, and yeah. I've figured out the you not being a woman part by now. That's not new or anything. If I had an issue with that, I would've brought it up by now, but I don't because it's not. The false advertising thing? Come on, you're not a cheeseburger. I didn't see a picture of it with bacon and order it and find out you had to order bacon on the side and think, oh shit, that picture lied to me! You're a human being, Tony; the only "false advertising" I think we've really done is put out some vibe to alien space gods or whatever that our natural state is to be ruled, or that we crave being ruled, or that our lives are hectic and harried and incomplete with the horrible thing we have called freedom. Don't apologize for being who you are. The only people who should do that are like murderers and rapists and pederasts and human traffickers and people who don't put their phone on vibrate/turn their phones off in the theater. And you're not any of those things. Well, I don't actually know—do you turn your phone off/to vibrate in movie theaters? Because that's a huge deal breaker. Terrible thing, seriously. People should be fined for that. I'm like, come on, guys, Aragorn is having a serious moment about killing off the orcs for Frodo and Sam to complete their quest and you a) left your phone on b) TAKE THE CALL IN THE MIDDLE OF A REALLY DRAMATIC SCENE c) get up awkwardly and excuse yourself while TALKING ON THE PHONE LIKE A TOTAL ASSHOLE and d) come back five minutes later and loudly ask, "So what happened?" Screw those guys, seriously. In the not fun way.

Edited 2012-10-04 20:55 (UTC)

Since it's a deal breaker, let me start by saying that I don't take calls or talk on my phone at movies. I haven't actually gone to a movie in ages, but even I know to turn the damn thing off. I don't know why people don't. They're there to watch a movie, not chat, and if they're going to chat, why go to a movie at all? Now I'm getting sidetracked. I see that. Sometimes I think it's easier to be honest like this. Does that make me a horrible person? The words just come easier. And I get to delete and start over if I write something stupid. I know it probably doesn't seem like something I'd do, but I take it seriously. The relationship. Is that okay to say now? I feel like I dance around it too much. Or maybe not enough. I don't know. I just don't want to freak you out. Point is, I don't screw around. I haven't been. It's only been you, and that's the way I intend to keep it. Everything in me wants to delete this. I feel like I've said too much. Made myself sound stupid. Offended you. I don't know. But I don't know what else I'd write instead, and you said be honest. I'm being honest.

Because clearly they're more important than everyone else there. The rules (once unspoken, now stated before the previews and on flyers in the lobbies) don't apply to them. No, you're not a horrible person. You're also not the only person who hides their points around a bunch of "babbling" or whatever you'd call it, whether you/they realize it or not. We're not in the Victorian era anymore. You're not going to freak me out. You haven't freaked me out at all. That point is mutual, so don't worry about that. Okay? I know you're a worrier, but you don't have to feel burdened that I'm going to screw around or whatever. That's pretty shitty, and not something I've ever done or intend to do. So. I'm glad you didn't delete it. Only say what you want. You don't sound stupid. I'm not offended. I don't know if you don't know. I don't know what else you would have written, but you're being honest. That's pretty courageous, too, you know.

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Maybe I should start going to movies again. I could take care of the cell phone problem. At least in whatever theater I was in. I know it's not the Victorian era anymore. If it was, I'd get the vapors every time you flashed a little ankle. Not to say I don't like your ankles. I do. I'm just not going to swoon. I've wondered. Not because I think you're shitty or anything like that. I don't think that at all. But because of me. I just, I don't know, I didn't know how to ask or bring it up without sounding like a jealous jerk. Which I can be. More than I'd like to admit. If I was being courageous, I'd be saying this to your face. Not typing it in an email. JARVIS is telling me that maybe that works for normal people, but for me, it counts. Personally, I think that's just because he likes you better.

Edited 2012-10-04 22:51 (UTC)

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Look, there's more of them.

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Nope. Not painting the town red and then painting the doors black or however it goes. FYI - I always wear socks anyway, no one else is seeing my ankles but you.

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Rock god Justin Hammer doesn't do Rolling Stones covers? Good. I will jealously guard my ability to view the sight of your flawless ankles. I actually don't wear socks all the time, but you're the only one who gets to see and touch my arc reactor. Does that count? Jesus Christ, what is wrong with that little troll?

Nope. It's all the Cult for me. That's way way way way way way better than ankles. It counts like a million times, yeah. Troll?

Have you ever been to see them? What if I really really really really really really like your ankles? Yeah. Holding the stuffed unicorn. It looks like he's trying to eat it.

Long time ago, yeah. They were great, of course. I guess I'll just take my socks off every time you come over/I come over? I think that's a girl, and little kids always like winning big plushie things at fairs, right? She's just really happy and it's just really fluffy. Apparently.

Want to go next time they have a concert? Or do they suck now that the lineup's changed? Yes. Should I always take my shirt off? I don't know. The only fairs I ever went to were science fairs at school. Did you go to stuffed animal fairs as a kid?

I don't really want to go because of the lineup change, but I couldn't tell you if they suck or not. I haven't listened to their more recent stuff. That might be distracting, actually. They have those sorts of things at amusement parks, too, like Six Flags and so forth. You fill up a balloon with water or shoot a line of moving ducks, you win a prize. I've been to a few.

Neither have I. I'll put one of their CDs on and give it a listen. You know I don't mind if you look at it, right? Or touch it. It's all right. Get as distracted as you want. If you're shooting things to get the prize, does that mean you've got a closet somewhere full of stuffed animals that you've won at amusement parks?

Tell me what you think. You're the rock expert. Yes, I know that much. That's the issue is that I'd end up touching it all the time and we'd never get much of anything done, and so forth and so on. Oh my God, stop.

I'm hardly an EXPERT. Do you want me to be honest with you again? Stop what? It's a legitimate question! You're the gun expert.

You actually kind of are. Sure thing. I'm a grown man, Tony, I don't keep plushies.

Aren't rock experts like, I don't know, groupies? Or roadies or something? I was never one of those. I like that you touch it. It makes me feel like less of a freak. And it, that thing I told you about? When it was taken from me? It helps. It's better memories that counteract the bad ones. Yeah but you're a good shot with a gun, right? That was my point.

I was more thinking someone who listened to it a lot/knew what was good, but it's good to know you never flashed Iron Maiden or Judas Priest as a way to get on the tour bus. That happened once, right? How many times do I need to do that to combat it as fully as possible? I always gave them to Goodwill or whatever. Let a little kid have it for five cents.

In some alternate reality where I'm a chick with big tits, you can bet I was probably doing that. But yeah, I'll give you my opinion after I listen to it. Who knows, it might be decent. What? No. It's not like that. Don't think it of it like that. I just mean that if you want to touch it, I'm not going to bothered. I like it. It's okay. Next time there's a fair, we should go and clean them out of stuffed animals. Drop them all off at the nearest Goodwill. Make some kids happy. (After you teach me how to use a gun.)

That would make having the arc reactor even more difficult, tig ole bitties. I didn't—I just. Look. Okay. Here's some honesty: you, shirtless? Kind of a thing. Like however I talk to you that gets you so wound up sort of thing. We could get all the little ones. I know they put a bunch in a bag and you can get the entire bag for like a quarter. I'm sure the bigger ones have their own prices, but yeah. Why the fuck not? (You got it.)

I never thought about that. Yet another reason to be glad that I'm not a woman. Wait, you mean you like it when I'm shirtless? I thought clothes on were a thing. We could be the scourge of the fair. All the game people could cower in fear when we walked up because they'd know we were going to clean them out.

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